Thursday, December 18, 2008

Declan's ways





If I were asked to describe what Declan is like at this stage, I would have to say he is a helper. He wants to help with everything...especially in the kitchen. From the start we have made the dishwasher as a 'no touch'. I am so thankful for this because all I need is someone taking out all the dishes that I just put in, it just get frustrating. I do believe that it is good for him to help though, so I am letting him help in different ways. He absolutely loves stirring things, using the chopper to chop the onions, sweeping the floor etc. He seems to cry every time that I say we are done in the kitchen (like if something is cooking and there is nothing left to do). He always gets over his little crying times quite quickly. They may be because we never give in. He knows it won't work for us.

Now that I have been at the early years for several weeks, I am starting to notice the same parents. I am also noticing the children that are obedient and then ones that walk all over their parents. I am so glad that I have had good role models and have been given really good advice about raising your children. Kids say things to their parents and to other kids that I would never allow Declan to say without some kind of punishment. For instance a kid kept ripping toys out of Declan's hand and I saw the mother watch...and the kid says give it to me, I want it....in a mean sort of way. I would totally step in and teach the child how to say it in a nice way. It is hard in a situation like that because....what should I get Declan to do.....get walked over and give it back or get Declan to keep it and tell her that he wants it?? It is different when the other parents are present.

Declan continues to be a hugger and kisser. I really really love that about Declan...he is the kind of kid that makes other people feel good...isn't that what little kids are for?:) I remember my neice and nephew went through quite the stage where they were grumpy and mean....I hope that Declan doesn't go through that stage...However....I am learning that you don't get to pick the stages and sometimes parents can't really do anything about certain attitudes. About the hugging and kissing....today Declan went up to a girl and gave her a hug and a kiss....the girl just stares at him....she really didn't like it. At some point the hugging and kissing is going to be a bad thing....but not yet:)

Declan still spends most of his time moving things around....no real playing yet. We have table time every day and he can put a puzzle together on his own! I looked up milestones on a website for 19 month olds and from the info written there, Declan is a little behind verbally. They say they are putting two words together or even small sentences. The most Declan can do is 'yes please'. He continues to pick up more words. Before he would just copy me saying the word (e.g. sock)....now he points to his sock and says it. He says 'stuck', 'juice', 'help - bup" "done" etc. I think he is doing just fine! I am really proud of him.

Like I have mentioned previously, my favourite part of my day is Declan' and Mommy Time at the end of the day. At about 6:30 we get on his pajamas, get milk and books. We sit in the big leather rocker with a blanket and do the following little routine: 1) Read 2 or 3 books 2) sing / say 3 or 4 little songs (e.g. eency weency, alphabet song, Jesus loves me, Twinkle etc.) 3) I sing him Silent night as he lays down on me --I had to work on this because he would never just lay down and relax on me--now he does 4) Sing 'Away in the Manger' 5) Pray 6) Count to 10....as we get off the chair 6) Advent Calendar -open the next door 7) Goodnights -to mom and dad 8) Bed ---I really enjoy that he will spend that much time with me with all these little activites. It is a great learning time as well:) I just love my little guy so much. We are praying for another little one...God knows the time. We really think Declan would love to have a brother or sister.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Days at Home



Declan really loves going to the babysitters and getting out of the house to go to the early years center or on errands. I am finding that he doesn't like the long stays at home. He needs to get out. Some days however, you just can't get out because it is rainy etc. Today is one of those days. We are home for the whole day and he seems to get ancy.

I'm not sure when kids start just quietly playing with toys in one spot. I am trying to teach him this and encourage him to sit down and play with toys. He would much rather climb chairs, move remotes, follow me around, carry objects around the house.... I'm sure it is probably very typical of a almost 19th old. I really just want him to sit down and play...maybe I'm asking too much!

Everyone these days is saying how busy they are. I am actually feeling quite bored. I have almost all of the gifts bought....what else is everyone else doing? Baking? I think it is too early. Wrapping gifts? I do need to do that at some point, but it feels too early. I haven't been working much. I have two days this week ... Thursday and Friday. It will be nice to get out of the house. Declan I am sure will love playing with the other kids. This weekend we are having the Christmas performances at our church. I'll be going to see it on Saturday evening, and then on Sunday morning I am helping in the nursery during both performances.

Declan is having his play pen time now! I am so happy that I started this routine...it really helps so much. I can use the time to have a shower, tidy up the house...or go on the computer.

Declan is talking some. He is starting to repeat words if you ask him to. He understands most of what you say to him...often answering with a big shake of the head our 'yes'. He went through a phase where he would say 'no' in a mean way. My babysitter suggested that you say back 'say yes mommy'. It completely distracts him from his mean face...and he says 'yes' with a happy face. Its cute. Declan is still very compassionate....again a child at the early years was crying and he went right up to him and gave him a kiss and a hug. So cute!

Declan has been going pee on the potty just about every day. He has gone poo once....and this is when he was already half way done what he was doing. Our goal is that after Christmas settles down again, we'll start him in his toddler underwear...I'm thinking January 2nd. We are going to do cold turkey (but diapers still for bed). The first week will be constant asking him to go to the toilet.....and maybe some running around naked. It might make it a little easier with the underwear because we won't have to snap up so many snaps each time.
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